Didn't see that coming!

[drakkie]

Just wondering how it all ended there. Did you get things back on track with her again ?

The girl I described in my post above did anyways. I have got a date planned for tonight, cannot wait. She contacted me newyearsday and from one thing came the other again. We'll see how it ends up.

[Clivey]

Originally Posted by drakkie

Just wondering how it all ended there. Did you get things back on track with her again ?

The girl I described in my post above did anyways. I have got a date planned for tonight, cannot wait. She contacted me newyearsday and from one thing came the other again. We'll see how it ends up.

on the back seat of the Alto? Your secret's safe with us.

[drakkie]

Originally Posted by Clivey

Inside his tunnel on the back seat of the Alto? Your secret's safe with us.

Do you have some kind of problem with me lately ? What did I do to deserve all your childish and insulting remarks ? I'd love to see some sort of explanation, or are you too scared for that ?

[jediali]

Isnt that a scene from zoolander ...TBH clivey, that one was a bit out of the blue.

[Clivey]

Originally Posted by drakkie

Do you have some kind of problem with me lately ? What did I do to deserve all your childish and insulting remarks ? I'd love to see some sort of explanation, or are you too scared for that ?

OK. Normally I can put-up with 15-year old kids that don't have anything better to do with their time boasting with tall stories, but it seems that you go out of your way to lie and to offer downright disgusting advice to people. The remarks about the illegal (for a reason) and inhumane killing of animals, along with other questionable behaviour coupled with blatant will to mislead and fib to other members are starting to grate on the nerves of a large amount of us.

Not only this but you constantly pretend to be someone you're not. You may well remember me congratulating you not so long ago for great posts including highly intelligent material, so it's all the more annoying to see the "120mph" and "Test-drove an R8" stories. You seem to have an untruth for every situation.

As for my reaction: The aim is purely to make you realise that you're being an idiot, so that you stop, think and change for the better - I was actually thinking about asking you for more (serious) details of this Escort project you're undertaking, but I couldn't be bothered with all the crap you'd likely be spouting, such as when you mentioned turbocharging your Alto.

I do credit people where credit's due - I voted for you on (I think) the last general photo comp, but I also don't tolerate idiots too kindly, hence this. It's a bit like the old story "The Boy Who Cried Wolf" - people just can't tell the difference between truth and lies coming from you anymore. Think about it.

Originally Posted by jediali

TBH clivey, that one was a bit out of the blue.

Yeah, as mentioned it's frustration taking it's toll. A healthy does of tongue-in-cheek humour sorts most things out on the Internet.

[werty]

Originally Posted by drakkie

Just wondering how it all ended there. Did you get things back on track with her again ?

We'll I took my buddy's advice and decided to wait a few days. I found her online on new years at like 12:15am. We talked finally for a little bit, she said she got a job and had been really busy. I asked her if she had any free time coming up and she said she would try and make some time for me...or something like that.

I was thinking of calling her this afternoon, but I've lost some of my confidence. I dont want to find out that if I had waited one more day everything would have been fine...but I also dont want to wait too long and have her find someone else.

I've never been in this type of situation before. When I meet someone I'm used to contacting them o a regular basis and hanging out alot. So this is completely confusing to me right now.

[ripper46]

hookers+cars+a nice pet= 1 complete life

all that women stuff ends in tears eventually, I TRY not to bother anymore
I love my car and my cat

edit: he's not dead, he really did lie there like that for nearly an hour

[Fuerte100]

Originally Posted by ripper46

hookers+cars+a nice pet= 1 complete life

all that women stuff ends in tears eventually, I TRY not to bother anymore
I love my car and my cat

edit: he's not dead, he really did lie there like that for nearly an hour

That cat gave me a good laugh. Thanks .

[VtecMini]

It's cliched to hell, but it's better to regret something you've done than something you haven't.

In this case, you've got nothing to lose by going for it. If she's interested, she'll want to know that you are too. If she isn't? Nothing lost.

[-What-]

Originally Posted by werty

But then something happpened...

She had to finish her finals and we couldnt see each other for a few days...no biggie, i just kept in touch with texts. But by Wednesday, her texts slow way down and on Thursday she stopped all together. I havent heard from her since So since then I have been totally depressed and I dont understand what happened. I talked to a buddy of mine who is a sort of girl-expert, and I tell him everything that happened. Neither of us could come up with an explanation.

My plan right now is to give her some space and see what happens in a week. But right now I feel like total crap....and I cant get her off my mind. Its really driving me nuts. I really hope she will get back to me soon...it went so well and there is no reason for this to not work...

Now dig this...
Hate me and whatever else, but "What" knows about bitches. Expert? Who? Me? Yes...not your friend apparently...maybe.

How old are you and the girl? I'm gonna make some assumptions so excuse me if my assumptions are wrong.

My first tip is don't listen to this guy.

Originally Posted by magracer

Call her, not casually, and ask her what's wrong, direct and the point. If it's going to be over, better to know sooner than later.

If you don't want her to date you anymore, follow magracer's advice. Firstly, she doesn't know you and you don't know her, so you two have no "it" that can be over. IS IT OVER BETWEEN US? The bitch will say..."What? What are you talking about? We were just friends...not boyfriend/girlfriend..."

I understand that your feelings were hurt and all, but this isn't a serious situation at all...and this especially wasn't a serious relationship because there wasn't a "relationship". Two dates dude, that's it...by my count. Therefore don't approach the lady with such a serious tone...this situation is something she doesn't have to clarify for you and for your sake I'm glad she didn't...because now you have experienced what most women will give you after only two weeks of knowing her.

So none of this "direct and to the point" shit. You'll turn her off. Why? Because you're violating what I call her "caveman rulebook"...aka, caveman status. Instinctual type shit. I believe when women first meet you they judge you more heavily on how "manly" you are rather what qualities you have that best benefit them in this modern day world. Getting all soft and insecure with a "what went wrong" question totally throws you in the bitch pile. You wouldn't hack it in caveman world and therefore she won't be interested in you anymore. This is my opinion. Don't listen to magracer.

What's all this depressed shit? There are like, millions of females available to you. This is one chick. This isn't your fault...or is it?

Originally Posted by werty

...it went so well and there is no reason for this to not work...

There are plenty reasons why it didn't work. I'm going to assume some things here.

The way you look wasn't the problem...initially at least. If you got a date then that shows that you passed her visual test. Now if you f*cked up later on in other areas she might start picking you apart and notice that your nose is a little big, you're a little short...too pale...eww...

My strongly researched and supported hypothesis as to what went wrong in your situation is that you didn't show clear signals that you were interested in her romantically...another "caveman" law broken. Were you a gentleman to her? Too gentleman like? I'd assume you were. I believe being a super gentleman to a young girl doesn't mix...because ya see...the younger the girl the dumber and less experienced the girl...and therefore she will judge you on more caveman qualities than a grown and mature woman.

So what did you do on the hike...alone. Talk? Ha, you lose. Less talk more touch. Try this and I bet you'd rarely lose contact. I'm not suggesting you rape bitches in the woods....no means no...but I will assume, judging by your perceived "attitude", that you could afford to be more aggressive and assertive...aka more interesting. She can talk to her friends...her hormones wanna kiss and caress YOU.

Of course it is completely possible that you did everything right and this is just one crazy ass bitch who hates a good man...but if you did everything right you wouldn't be crying.

Originally Posted by werty

We talked finally for a little bit, she said she got a job and had been really busy. I asked her if she had any free time coming up and she said she would try and make some time for me...or something like that.

I was thinking of calling her this afternoon, but I've lost some of my confidence. I dont want to find out that if I had waited one more day everything would have been fine...but I also dont want to wait too long and have her find someone else.

You shouldn't have asked her if she "had any free time coming up"...dude, you're bracing for failure. Chicks recognize this. You gotta go all-in if you expect something to happen. Have some balls..."There's this car-show at 5:00 on Friday I was gonna go check out...you should come.." Your sentences should be something like that. With new chicks it is most important to try to be specific as f*ck. Beating around the bush causes communication barriers. And...chicks dig decision makers. But please note, by the third date, your date invites should sound a little more "naughty"...more like...."There's this car-show at 5:00 on Friday I was gonna go check out...you should come...or better yet theres a party that night that you should come to instead...it's darker so it'll be easier for you to take advantage of me." You should be saying that...but you probably f*cked this up already....but it's cool, it's cool....

Now, what you want to know...
Sorry, but the chances are that she is not interested in you anymore.
NO chick is too busy to contact someone she is interested in. NONE. NOT A SINGLE GIRL ON EARTH...unless she's kidnapped, bound and gagged. Your "expert" friend may have known this but didn't want to break your heart...or not. That job shit is so old. Where is she working? McDonalds? Barnes and Noble? Unless she's starting a career managing Oprah's schedule and running for President, this excuse is so lame and flawed. Too busy? Because the bitch got a job? Please...that's how I know this bitch is young.

If you had a level head, you'd have seen through her "lies". But you're lust struck. Well, let this be a lesson that there are beautiful women out there willing to give you a chance. That should be a confidence boost to you. I would suggest you behave differently next time. And I suggest you not harm your pride and/or reputation by making emotionally involved attemtps to "get her back". And if you do make attempts to date her again, do it later on...like...way later. And do it with less emotional "end-of-the-world-if-she-says-no" attachment. So what if she finds a new man during the "wait"...if she's not calling you, she was going to find one anyway, with or without your harassment.


If you have any future questions or confusion from my post I have no problem lending you my opinions. I am not harsh or mean so don't take this post as a harsh or mean...post.

[werty]

you pretty much said exactly what my bud was telling me

and I appreciate it, and I acknowledge it

but in my defense, I didnt over-dramatize it to her in any way

if I didnt get a reply back I didnt go out and say..."why dont you like me anymore", haha, im not a teenager

I pretty much agree with everything you said, I know its all truth...your strategy that is

and yes she is younger...by 3 years

My best guess is I dont have another shot for now...maybe in a few weeks or months something might start up again

Or maybe she is crazy, I have no clue

[-What-]

Originally Posted by werty

but in my defense, I didnt over-dramatize it to her in any way...and yes she is younger...by 3 years

I didn't think that you over-dramatized it to her. I was speaking in "what-ifs".

How old are you?

[my porsche]

Originally Posted by werty

haha, im not a teenager

...I thought you were like 17-19ish?

WHAT, you used to be the most annoying e-thug in existence, but I guess you rediscovered yourself or something. Your posts are helpful, coherent, make sense, and most of all not just insults. I don't know "what" to think. Good job, some very good and helpful advice in what you posted.

[fisetdavid26]

Originally Posted by my porsche

WHAT, you used to be the most annoying e-thug in existence, but I guess you rediscovered yourself or something. Your posts are helpful, coherent, make sense, and most of all not just insults. I don't know "what" to think. Good job, some very good and helpful advice in what you posted.

I have to admit what -What- just said is pretty cool. But then I read his chop request thread...

[my porsche]

Originally Posted by fisetdavid26

I have to admit what -What- just said is pretty cool. But then I read his chop request thread...

Yeaaahhhh I just read that too. Classic -What-.