It's time for me to make a serious life change

[fisetdavid26]

Don't forget André Young.

Ya but it was 'sang' by Calvin

[f6fhellcat13]

Ya but it was 'sang' by Calvin

But both where heavily influenced by O'Shea Jackson when he done said "A bitch is a bitch." in the late 80s

[fisetdavid26]

But both where heavily influenced by O'Shea Jackson when he done said "A bitch is a bitch." in the late 80s

We're a bit too connoisseur with the real names, I don't think people are following what the hell we're on about

Speaking of which, back on topic please.

[CdocZ]

and keep you busy as much as you can.

I did so, I focused just on myself, my needs, my interests, my thoughts. I stayed alone (completely) for a long period always trying to find what coul satisfy me, make me happy or a better person without giving a cent to other people. there was just me....but it helped me "finding myself". after a while, I was feeling better and had enoguh of just myself.

Very much agreed. "If you are lonely when you are alone, then you are in bad company". Make yourself all you need to be content with your surroundings - not to the point where everything else in the world starts to bother you or that you find yourself too picky about other people, but enough that if you need to be alone, you can be.

This is not to say you MUST spend all your time alone - keeping busy can mean going out for a drink with friends, too.

However, I will also say that moving/going and doing something different, is definitely the best thing to do for the moment.

[jcp123]

Thanks guys. It's been a help to hear your perspectives and support. It's slowly getting better already. I'm still having some trouble sleeping and eating, but my waking hours are starting to get a little more bearable. Time, I hope, will heal.

[f6fhellcat13]

Good to hear.
Sorry about Fiset and I's tangent.
I know your prbably in a depressed laze and dont want to do much, but I reccommend some hardcore intense playing of instuments(if you do) or excercise. They'll elp you build up your appetite and help you sleep.

[IBrake4Rainbows]

Time is the great healer.

But Food really, really helps. If you get invited out for a meal, and especially if they are paying, take the opportunity. It'll be a good chance to not only talk, but you'll get a free meal out of it

[Zytek_Fan]

Any opportunities to go clubbing are strongly advised.

[jcp123]

I've actually been pretty active, but the appetite isn't there. I get nauseous around food usually, but I managed to pack an entire plate of pasta away tonight when I went to dinner with my Ma and the conversation distracted me.

Sleepwise...well, let's put it this way. I'm no fan of medicating, but I took a sleeping pill last night and still got only 4 hours of sleep.

If I had a bicycle, I'd take your exercise advice, it was one of my first thoughts. The first girl I dated and lost, I got over in a half hour mad frenzy of pedal pushing. We're talking Giro d'Italia and Tour de France effort here. I could barely stand afterwards and my legs hurt for several days after, but the pent up tension was gone like magic. We don't have any bicycles anymore though

[Vindesh17]

Thanks guys. It's been a help to hear your perspectives and support. It's slowly getting better already. I'm still having some trouble sleeping and eating, but my waking hours are starting to get a little more bearable. Time, I hope, will heal.

It's good to know we've helped you in some ways. And about the sleeping and eating part, I fully understand how you feel. I've only began to eat normally less than two weeks ago, that's about a month and a half into the break up. My sleeping is still irregular but its better than the 1 hour or so of sleep I was getting at the beginning of everything. And you are right, time will heal. You will still think about her and everything that's happened, especially around special days between you two. But you'll find that eventually you'll find yourself caring less and less as you go on. At least that was my experience. Go on with life, you'll thank yourself later on.

[blingbling]

@blingbling it is a good thing you are not in Oz coz some of your comments would see you get a foot swiftly swung in the direction of your ass for being such a knob. men are just as bad as women at it, so pigeon-holing women with your stupid post is just ridiculous...

uhh, a bad woman is a lot more difficult to detect than a bad man

blingbling thats not nice. Remember the apples on the tree's - Not all are bad and good ones are not that rare.

im sorry im trying to look very hard

[Bleeding Heart]

Time is the great healer.

But Food really, really helps. If you get invited out for a meal, and especially if they are paying, take the opportunity. It'll be a good chance to not only talk, but you'll get a free meal out of it

Yeah... Eating might help but sometimes...

Food wouldn't help the pain...

[Bleeding Heart]

Thanks guys. It's been a help to hear your perspectives and support. It's slowly getting better already. I'm still having some trouble sleeping and eating, but my waking hours are starting to get a little more bearable. Time, I hope, will heal.

All you need is some more time to forget her...

Don't worry... I'm sure you'll forget the pain...

[LeonOfTheDead]

I've actually been pretty active, but the appetite isn't there. I get nauseous around food usually, but I managed to pack an entire plate of pasta away tonight when I went to dinner with my Ma and the conversation distracted me.

Sleepwise...well, let's put it this way. I'm no fan of medicating, but I took a sleeping pill last night and still got only 4 hours of sleep.

If I had a bicycle, I'd take your exercise advice, it was one of my first thoughts. The first girl I dated and lost, I got over in a half hour mad frenzy of pedal pushing. We're talking Giro d'Italia and Tour de France effort here. I could barely stand afterwards and my legs hurt for several days after, but the pent up tension was gone like magic. We don't have any bicycles anymore though

you made me laugh, and that's a good sign.

I would say that you are going to discover hidden forces in those moments. me, without any kind of training, was running every day for 50 minutes as fats as I can, slightly uphill. after a couple of days or so, I re-started eating, it was just a physical thing in that way. consuming massive energy, beginning to refuel the body. still kinda unpleasant.

time...expect it to be very much. but, yeah, you will thank yourself later.

[jcp123]

*sigh* now I gotta send the certified letter to show that I attempted to adviser her of what I'm going to do with her stuff she still has here...and hope she doesn't sick the cops on me for it. She is mad as hell for some reason.