I do know what you mean, although I do still drop a couple of cogs and floor it for fun, but we've just established that the 4-pot 1-series petrols are nothing special anyway - so why pay more to run a 116i than a 123d?
If you offered me the choice of a 120i or a 123d, I'd choose the latter. I don't consider it "less good to drive" than a petrol - It's just different. Where a sporty petrol has horsepower at high revs, a sporty diesel has a great slug of torque all the way from just above idle to about 4k rpm. It's a bit like an American V8 in that way.
Even if they made a 2.0-litre NA 4-pot petrol with high specific output and a high redline (which they're not going to because of ridiculous "green" obsessions and emissions targets), the running costs would likely be prohibitive anyway. Standard 95-Octane petrol is about £1 per litre / £4.54 per Imperial gallon here at the moment - and it won't get any better.
And although it pains me greatly to say it, eventually Albert, you're going to have to give-up your ICE engine and manual gearbox anyway. Mainstream cars will probably all be powered by electric motors in the future - I predict that there will be niche sports cars with ICE engines for enthusiasts, but they'll be so expensive to tax and run that they'll be as irrelevant as a private jet to most people.